ChildTempo
For parents raising a child across two homes

A parenting plan built around your child's week.

Two parents, one shared plan, agreed clause by clause. Every suggestion has to say what it does for your child, and once you both accept the same words, that clause locks.

We'll only use this to tell you when it opens. Your co-parent isn't contacted.

What you end up with: the same agreed plan as a clean document, on pleading paper, and live in the app. See it
Who has Sam this week Oct 12 to 18 · 2-2-3, alternates weekly
  1. Mon12: with Robin
  2. Tue13: with Robin
  3. Wed14: today. Exchange at school pickup, then with Jordan
  4. Thu15: with Jordan
  5. Fri16: exchange at school pickup, 3:15 pm, then with Robin
  6. Sat17: with Robin
  7. Sun18: with Robin

Next week mirrors it: Jordan has Sam Friday to Sunday.

2.2Friday exchange Agreed

Friday exchanges happen at school pickup, 3:15 pm, or 1:00 pm on early-release days.

For Sam Smoother logisticsPicked up when school ends, even on short days.

Both parents accepted this wording · 3 history entries · Verify any time

The one rule

The question every suggestion answers

“What does this do for Sam?”

You never have to accept wording you're not happy with. You can suggest something better instead, and say how it helps your child. That small rule moves the conversation away from the two of you and back to the person it's about.

Accept

Agree with the wording as it stands. When both of you accept the same words, the clause locks.

Propose

Suggest new wording, with a line on what it does for your child. The other parent sees exactly what changed.

No flat “no”

There's no “reject”. You accept, or you offer better words and say why they help Sam. Until then, the clause simply stays open.

How it works

One family, one Friday, one calmer week.

Follow Robin and Jordan as they agree how Fridays work for their son, Sam. Every step below is a real part of the app.

Sam, 7 Robin Jordan

An example family. The names are made up.

  1. It starts with the calendar

    Sam's week, as it is today

    Before any wording, there's the week Sam actually lives: which home each night, when the handoffs happen, and what changes for holidays.

    Most of it works. Fridays don't. The handoff is at 7:00 pm, so Sam eats dinner in the car most weeks.

    For SamOne picture of the week that both parents see the same way.

    Calendar · who has Sam 2-2-3 rotation · before the change

    Week of Aug 31

    1. Mon31: with Robin
    2. Tue1: with Robin
    3. Wed2: exchange at school, then with Jordan
    4. Thu3: with Jordan
    5. Fri4: exchange at 7:00 pm, then with Robin. The hard part of the week.
    6. Sat5: with Robin
    7. Sun6: with Robin

    Week of Sep 7

    1. Mon7: school holiday. Holiday schedule keeps Sam with Robin
    2. Tue8: exchange at school, then with Jordan
    3. Wed9: exchange at school, then with Robin
    4. Thu10: with Robin
    5. Fri11: exchange at 7:00 pm, then with Jordan. The hard part of the week.
    6. Sat12: with Jordan
    7. Sun13: with Jordan

  2. Propose, with a reason

    Robin suggests a change, and says why

    Robin proposes moving the Friday handoff to school pickup. The app won't send it until Robin has written one line about what it does for Sam.

    Jordan sees it as a word-by-word redline: what's leaving, what's arriving, and nothing else. Jordan doesn't have to accept it, and doesn't have to argue either: Jordan can suggest something better.

    For SamThe conversation is about his Friday, not about who's right.

    Jordan's move 2.2Friday exchange

    Robin proposed new wording · Sep 12

    Friday exchanges happen at 7:00 pm at the home of the parent whose time is starting school pickup, 3:15 pm.

    What this does for Sam Calmer handoffs

    Sam goes straight from school to the weekend home, instead of a car ride at dinner time.

    Accept, or propose something better. Until then, the clause simply stays open.

  3. Meet in the middle

    Jordan builds a middle version

    Jordan likes the idea but sees one gap: on early-release Fridays, Sam would be waiting at school. In the middle-version builder, every sentence comes from one version or the other. Jordan keeps Robin's sentence and adds the early-release words in Jordan's own edit, which goes back to Robin as a proposal.

    Jordan works on it privately, alongside another clause, and sends both together when they're ready. Drafts stay private until they're sent.

    For SamNobody is left waiting on the short days.

    Middle version 2.2 · Friday exchange

    Friday exchanges happen at school pickup, 3:15 pm, or 1:00 pm on early-release days.

    What this does for Sam Smoother logistics

    On early-release Fridays, Sam is picked up when school ends instead of waiting two hours.

    Private draftsOnly Jordan can see these
    • 2.2Friday exchange For Sam: added
    • 2.5Swim bag travels with Sam For Sam: added

  4. Agreed means agreed

    Both say yes. The clause locks.

    When both parents accept the same wording, the clause locks. It's settled, and it stays settled.

    If either parent wants to change it later, they ask to reopen it. The other parent chooses Agree to reopen or Keep as agreed. Until they choose, the agreed wording stands.

    For SamFridays stop being renegotiated every week.

    2.2 Friday exchange Robin's move

    Friday exchanges happen at school pickup, 3:15 pm, or 1:00 pm on early-release days.

    Jordan · proposed this wordingAccepted
    Robin

    Later, if someone asks to reopen it

    The locked wording stays in force until the other parent answers.

    Try it: this card is interactive.

  5. A record you can check

    A history that shows if anything changed

    Every clause keeps an append-only history: each proposal, each acceptance, in order. Proposing wording counts as accepting it, so it takes just one more “yes” to lock. Each entry is chained to the one before it with a cryptographic fingerprint.

    Either parent can open History and press Verify. It recomputes every fingerprint and tells you whether the record still holds together, and if one had been changed, which entry.

    For SamLess “that's not what we said”. The record answers it.

    History · 2.2 Friday exchange Hash-chained

      Try it: Verify recomputes each fingerprint in your browser. “Change one word” edits an old entry so you can see the chain catch it. The highlight on the changed word is only for this demo; the app names the entry that breaks.

    1. When it isn't simple

      The plan notices what else moved, and lets a hard topic wait

      The holiday clause relied on the old Friday time, so it's flagged for both parents to re-confirm. Nothing that depended on 2.2 slips through unchanged and unseen.

      Screen time is harder. After a couple of rounds it's still open, and that's allowed: nobody has to accept wording they're not happy with. It waits on the Board, with both suggestions and their reasons, while the rest of the plan keeps moving.

      For SamOne hard topic doesn't hold up everything else.

      Re-confirm 4.2Holiday exchanges

      Relies on 2.2 Friday exchange, which changed on Sep 14.

      Holiday exchanges happen at the regular Friday exchange time and place, unless the holiday schedule says otherwise.

      Robin's move 5.4Screen time at both homes Open · round 3

      Robin · For Sam: School & sleepNo screens after 7:30 pm on school nights.

      Jordan · For Sam: PredictabilityOne hour a day, the same at both homes.

      Still open, and that's fine. Clauses 2.2, 2.5 and 4.2 kept moving meanwhile.

    2. Where it ends up

      A plan Sam can count on

      Clause by clause, the plan fills in. The dashboard shows whose move it is and how far you've come. The calendar updates to match what you agreed.

      When you need it on paper, the Document view gives you a clean copy, or a pleading-paper layout that prints to PDF. See all three below.

      For SamFridays now end at the school gate, with both of his parents on the same page.

      Dashboard

      21 of 26 clauses agreed for Sam

      Your move: 2Their move: 2Re-confirm: 1

      The finished plan, three ways

      A clean document, pleading paper that prints to PDF, and the live plan in the app.

      See the end result
    The end result

    One agreed plan. Three ways to keep it.

    When Robin and Jordan have agreed every clause, they have the same plan in three forms: a clean document to read, pleading paper to print, and the live plan in the app, where Sam's calendar follows what they agreed. The clause wording shown is example text, not a template to copy.

    Finished: every clause agreed by both parents. No watermark, and signature lines ready for you both.

    Parenting Plan

    For Sam

    Between Robin and Jordan

    Working draft · 1 clause still open

    2. Weekly schedule and exchanges

    2.1 Weekly rotation. agreed

    Sam follows a 2-2-3 rotation between both homes, alternating weekly.

    2.2 Friday exchange. agreed

    Friday exchanges happen at school pickup, 3:15 pm, or 1:00 pm on early-release days.

    2.5 Swim bag. agreed

    Sam's swim bag travels with Sam between homes.

    5. Daily life

    5.4 Screen time at both homes. agreed

    No screens after 7:30 pm on school nights, and up to one hour a day, in either home.

    5.4 Screen time at both homes.

    Each parent sets screen-time rules in their own home.

    Regular documentEvery clause in order, in the words you both accepted. Easy to read, share or print.In a draft, open clauses show the wording on the table, marked so nobody mistakes them for agreed.
    Pleading paperNumbered lines, a caption and signature lines, ready to print or save as a PDF. Under the signatures, a document fingerprint computed from the history of every clause.Something to take to a lawyer or a court. Whether a court accepts it depends on where you live.In a draft, open clauses can show as they are now, as proposed, or as a redline.

    Dashboard

    All 26 clauses agreed for Sam

    25 of 26 clauses agreed for Sam

    Plan agreed Nothing waiting on anyone Their move: 1
    2.2Friday exchange Agreed

    Friday exchanges happen at school pickup, 3:15 pm, or 1:00 pm on early-release days.

    For Sam Smoother logisticsPicked up when school ends, even on short days.

    Both accepted · History: 3 entries · Verify any time

    5.4Screen time at both homesAgreed Oct 2
    5.4Screen time at both homesOpen · round 3
    Who has Sam Oct 12 to 18
    1. Mon12: with Robin
    2. Tue13: with Robin
    3. Wed14: exchange at school, then with Jordan
    4. Thu15: with Jordan
    5. Fri16: exchange at school pickup, 3:15 pm, then with Robin
    6. Sat17: with Robin
    7. Sun18: with Robin
    In the appThe live plan: locked clauses, a history either parent can Verify, and Sam's week on the calendar, kept in step with what you agreed.Both parents see the same plan and the same buttons. Only the two of you can sign in to this plan.When someone proposes a schedule change the calendar can read, you can see what it would do to Sam's week before you decide.
    Everything in one place

    Five views of the same plan, plus email updates

    Both parents see the same plan, the same words and the same history. Each view just answers a different question, and the email updates keep you in step without opening the app.

    Dashboard

    What's your move, and how far you've both come.

    Board

    Open clauses, sorted by whose move it is. Nothing gets lost in a thread.

    Plan

    The whole plan, section by section, with each clause's status and history.

    Calendar

    Who has your child each night: rotations, exchange times and holiday overrides.

    Document

    A clean copy to read, or pleading paper that prints to PDF.

    Email updates

    When one parent acts, the other hears about it in the way they've chosen.

    Try it: how should updates arrive?

    One email a day with everything that changed. Quieter, and easier to read in one sitting.

    Fair by design

    Same screens. Same buttons. Same footing.

    Neither parent goes first, owns the document, or gets the louder voice. The wording in the app is neutral everywhere, so neither of you is framed as the problem.

    Robin
    • Accept or propose
    • Private drafts
    • Verify history
    Jordan
    • Accept or propose
    • Private drafts
    • Verify history
    Not legal adviceChildTempo helps you write down what you agree. It isn't a law firm and doesn't promise any legal outcome. You can use it alongside a lawyer.

    • No flat “no”

      Nobody has to accept wording they're not happy with. You suggest something better instead, so every disagreement becomes a next step.

    • Every suggestion names the child

      A proposal can't be sent until it says what it does for your child.

    • Changes are shown, word by word

      A redline shows exactly what's leaving and what's arriving. Nothing hidden in a rewrite.

    • Agreed stays agreed

      Reopening a locked clause takes both of you. Until then, it stands.

    • A record either parent can check

      Append-only, hash-chained history that either parent can Verify whenever they like.

    • Room to think first

      Drafts stay private until you send them, so you can write calmly and send when ready.

    Questions

    Good questions to ask first

    Do both parents need to use it?

    Yes. A clause only locks when both parents accept the same wording, so the plan comes together when you both take part. Each parent has the same screens and the same choices.

    Who can see our plan?

    In the app, a plan is visible only to its two parents. There are no other accounts on it, and your private drafts are visible only to you until you send them.

    Only the two parents' email addresses can sign in. Anyone else who tries isn't sent a sign-in link.

    If I sign up, will the app contact the other parent?

    No. Joining the waitlist only puts your email on our list. Nothing is sent to anyone else.

    In the app, each parent signs in with their own email address, using a sign-in link. Either parent can invite the other from Settings, and sees exactly what the invitation says before it goes.

    Is this legal advice?

    No. ChildTempo helps you agree and write down a parenting plan. It doesn't give legal advice or promise any outcome. If you're working with a lawyer, you can bring what you've agreed to them.

    Can I share the plan with my lawyer or the court?

    You can print the Document view, or save it as a PDF, and share it with anyone you choose. There's a pleading-paper layout too. See both.

    ChildTempo doesn't file anything or make the plan legally binding. What a court needs, and whether it accepts a plan in this form, depends on where you live. Your lawyer can tell you.

    What if we can't agree on something?

    Try the middle-version builder to meet halfway. If a clause still won't settle, it simply stays open. Nobody has to accept wording they're not happy with, and the rest of the plan keeps moving while it waits.

    Why does every suggestion have to say what it does for my child?

    Saying it out loud keeps each change about your child, and it gives the other parent a reason to consider, not just new words.

    Can the other parent see my drafts?

    No. Drafts are private until you send them. You can prepare several and send them together when each one says what it does for your child.

    What if something needs to change later?

    Either parent can ask to reopen a locked clause. The other parent chooses “Agree to reopen” or “Keep as agreed”, and the agreed wording stands until they do. Both versions stay in the clause's history.

    What does “tamper-evident history” mean?

    Every entry in a clause's history carries a fingerprint that includes the entry before it. Change anything earlier and the fingerprints after it stop matching. Either parent can open History and press Verify to check. It shows whether any entry was edited, removed or cut off after it was recorded.

    It has a limit, and we'd rather say so. Verify catches a change to part of the record. Someone with full access to where plans are stored could, in principle, rewrite a whole history from the start, fingerprints and all, and Verify wouldn't see that. A printed or PDF copy you keep yourself gives you something to compare against.

    When can we start, and what will it cost?

    We're getting it ready now. Join the waitlist and we'll let you know when it opens.

    Pricing hasn't been decided yet. Joining the waitlist is free.

    Is it right for every family?

    Not always. If there are concerns about safety, abuse or one parent controlling the other, please get support first from a lawyer or a local family service. They can help you decide whether working on a plan together is safe, and how.

    It works best when both parents can take part safely and in their own time.

    Two homes. One plan your child can count on.

    Built together, one calm clause at a time. Join the waitlist and we'll tell you when ChildTempo is ready.

    We'll only use this to tell you when it opens. Your co-parent isn't contacted.